Perfection.

Hey everyone! well, this isn't my typical post, but I really wanted to share this with everyone. 

If you're someone who's experiencing this, my dm's and ask.fm(I won't publish the ask if you don't want me to) is always open! I'm here to help, support, give advice, and simply talk. It's okay to deal with these things, it's a part of being human. 

And if you're a person who has ever made one of those comments to anyone, or any negative comment at all, it's not okay. Maybe you didn't mean it, or you were 'just kidding'. Maybe you thought you were trying to help. Maybe they said something hurtful to you, so you wanted to get back at them. Maybe it makes you feel good to say these things. But it will hurt them, so please don't. What if that was said to you? Your words will live with that person forever. It will crush them, and it will be etched in their minds forever. Go up to that person, and apologize. Tell them that they're beautiful. That they're funny. That they're intelligent. That they're perfect the way they are. Tell them before it's too late. 

Again, I'm always here to talk :). 

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Also, anyone who's dealing with an eating disorder, I recommend you read @typicalblog's story, and anyone trying to loose weight the healthy and natural way, check out her tumblr! http://typicalblog96.tumblr.com/ :) 

Enjoy! 

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You know what's horrible?

Is that someone can hate themselves so much. 

That someone can be so depressed about themselves sometimes.

about their body

about their personality

about their weight

about the way people think of them and their appearance. 

Even when they're completely happy, one look in the mirror can destroy them. 

When all of these thoughts keep rushing into their heads. 

''Not pretty enough.''

''Not skinny enough.''

''That won't look good on you. You're fat, remember?''

''You have to weight less.''

''I know you've lost weight, but not enough. You need to loose more.'' 

''Look how thin she is! Why don't you look like that?'' 

''Your stomach needs to be thinner.''

''Your thighs need to be smaller.''

''Your teeth need to be whiter.''

''Your hair needs to be longer.'' 

''You are not good enough.''

And you would think, that after loosing some weight, they would be happier with themselves. But in reality, they were actually happier when they weighed more, then when they weighed less. 

Because once they started loosing weight, they started being more critical on themselves. They started to despise themselves, and how they looked. 

Some of them start to loose weight for many reasons. 

For themselves

For a guy 

For their parents

For kids at school

Because someone ever made a comment to them

Or possibly all of those reasons. 

And the funny thing is, most of them aren't even overweight. 

So, for whatever reason, they try to loose weight. That person may choose Anorexia, or Bulimia, which is a very harsh way and will by 100% eventually kill you if you don't stop.

In this instance, they went on a strict diet. 

And it's a fact that they will loose weight doing this. And they'll probably be overjoyed with the results. 

But, once that joy dies down, it's replaced with a desire for more.

So, they'll continue to do whatever it is that they did to loose the weight. But, as they do, they start pinpointing other things about them. 

Their hair

Their teeth

Their smile

Their laugh

Their legs

Their arms

Their thighs

Their cheekbones

Their personality

All of these things that they never even thought twice about will suddenly become 'imperfections'. And they'll also try to perfect them. 

Soon, it becomes this vicious cycle of wanting one thing.

Perfection.

Even in the most random occasions, these thoughts will always be circling their  mind.

''Wow, my legs are so huge!''

''I really want to loose this weight!''

''My skin is so horrible!''

''Why can't I look like her?''

''Why can't I be pretty?''

''Don't eat that! You'll get fatter.''

''Do you know how many calories that has?''

''Wait, don't order that drink. It has too much sugar!''

''Look at them, they're staring at me! Probably because I look so fat.'' 

And the most common:

''I can't wait until I get thin and pretty and perfect and then I'll be happy!''

When in reality, they won't ever find their definition of 'perfect'', because they'll always find something that is 'wrong'' with themselves. 

All they set out to do was do one thing, loose weight. And it turned in to wanting to be Perfect. So they get depressed and they try harder and they finally achieve something, only to have their spirits crushed by another 'imperfection''. 

So they keep trying, and trying and trying to be 'perfect'.

And it's Killing them.

As for a solution to this cycle? Well, they're still trying to figure that out by trying to 'perfect' themselves. 

Well, you might be asking, ''How does she know so much about this, no one probably never had to experience this.'' 

Well, you're wrong, because millions of girls, and boys, experience this every single day. And as for how do I know about this? 

Because them is me. 

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